Teach your children the art of making mistakes!
Why, then, have we developed a fear of and a loathing intolerance for our best friend, the mistake? Why are our children so afraid of making mistakes that they often prefer not to even try? Why do we allow ourselves to feel enslaved by the very thing we should embrace?
Cindy Glass, Owner and Founder of afterschool remediation franchise, Step Up Education Centres looks to shake up our thinking in terms of mistake making. She says, “Generations of people have passed on the untruth that making mistakes is to be avoided at all costs and worse, making mistakes, even minor ones, mean punishment and humiliation. Mistakes, for so many children are a constant source of anxiety and fear. Surely it is time to consider the merits of making effective mistakes! After all it is ONLY through making mistakes that we are able to learn anything new!”
Bill Gates and Richard Branson are examples of modern day businessmen who used their devastating mistakes to learn valuable lessons which would eventually catapult them to success. Thomas Edison failed a whopping 9000 times in his quest to create the electric lightbulb. He is famous for saying that he would never give up because he had simply learned 9000 different ways of how not to make a lightbulb!
So, if the path to success is paved with mistakes, how do we master that art and instil this learning in our children?
Cindy sheds some light:
You need to embrace mistakes: There is only one effective way to teach our children to embrace their mistakes and use them as valuable opportunities to learn. As parents, WE need to own and embrace OUR mistakes. We need to acknowledge them for what they are and find effective solutions as we learn better ways of doing things. We need to teach our children to be comfortable with making mistakes because we are comfortable in making our mistakes.
Teach them to own their mistakes: One of the most valuable tools that you can give your child is to teach him to own his mistakes. To achieve this, we need to remove the fear that is associated with making mistakes by finding it within ourselves to be tolerant of the imperfectness of our children. After all, we are no strangers to making mistakes. As parents, our reaction to any mistake will set the tone for ownership and positive learning. This does not mean that consequences are no longer important-quite the opposite! Choose your battles. Accidents are accidents and deliberate mistakes are choices.
“Children who are taught to use their mistakes as learning opportunities are considerably less anxious and are significantly more confident in their exploration of the world they live in, and this is beautiful!” Cindy concludes.